And yet push for achievement.
"I want a baby."
They bicker between themselves,
And reproach her for being distant.
"My friends have so much fun."
They dwell on money,
And indenture her to loyalty.
"I can't stand this every day."
She is innocent.
They have ambitions.
There was a girl who was both a good student and a good athlete. Her family did not find that to be enough. They pushed her to spend all her time studying or practicing for her next sport competition. Finally, she could stand it no further. She ran away.Her family was firmly convinced that it was a kidnapping.
In so many families, a girl is told how useless she is. Is it any wonder that she gets pregnant? A boy is told how lazy he is. Is it any wonder that he rebels as an act of individuality?
When parents demand without understanding, they thwart development. Forcing children to fulfill parental ambitions destroys individuality. Before parents blame their children, they should first look to how their daughters and sons were raised.
Personal Interpretation
We should never thwart the individuality of others. This mandate is no less true for parents. Holding children to impossible standards, asking them to fulfill the goals we create for them, does nothing but push them away. The formative years are so called because they shape who we are as people. It may take years to unlearn the harmful lessons imparted by poor parenting. Before we blame others, let us first look to our role in their behavior.
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